tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8547886101764404344.post6046968278335537261..comments2024-03-24T20:50:06.083-04:00Comments on Lessons in Psychology: Freedom, Liberation, and Reaction: Implementation and Significance: Fundamental Psychotherapeutic InterventionsWynn Schwartz, Ph.D.http://www.blogger.com/profile/03689137521075228568noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8547886101764404344.post-64273375195782685412016-09-11T15:21:23.961-04:002016-09-11T15:21:23.961-04:00Enjoyed this post! Throughout the post, I kept thi...Enjoyed this post! Throughout the post, I kept thinking of a client I worked with last year who was constantly struggling with problematic behaviors in her relationships. Frequently, I would feel stuck in our sessions as it was difficult to come up with new ways to help her see herself and her behaviors in her relationships. I can see the great value in posing the question you outlined above: "how's doing it that way working for you?" as that would've given me a different perspective and opportunity to understand how my client views that ways that her problematic behaviors were affecting her relationships. I will certainly keep in mind if I run into similar situations with clients this year. Thanks! <br /><br />-Katelyn Desrosiers (WJC student) Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8547886101764404344.post-51092767126172327812016-02-28T13:29:40.615-05:002016-02-28T13:29:40.615-05:00Thanks, sounds like another way to go at it. There...Thanks, sounds like another way to go at it. There are a multitude of ways of helping people look at themselves. If one style of question doesn't do the trick, try another. (I ask myself, "how's that manner of inquiry working for you?")Wynn Schwartz, Ph.D.https://www.blogger.com/profile/03689137521075228568noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8547886101764404344.post-57726435985303619252016-02-28T12:42:07.437-05:002016-02-28T12:42:07.437-05:00Well, for what it's worth -- I wouldn't as...Well, for what it's worth -- I wouldn't ask "How's that working for you" or "what's at stake." That kind of question is asking people to observe and describe their lives, something people are famously poor at in general, and especially so for someone in therapy. I'd ask, "So, what's that like" or "How's that feel?" Not because of any sort of primacy of "feelings," but because that's the best way to find out how it actually is for them, as a person *doing* those things and living that way, not someone observing themselves and those actions. And from there I start looking for the real-world basis of whatever feelings they report.Joe Jhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14922743471909560186noreply@blogger.com